Never as in this historic moment profoundly marked by a global pandemic, with

consequent restrictions to protect the population, has shown a secondary and invisible effect: the

manifestation of fragility (which in reality most likely were already present in a more form

“silent”). Every single individual has experienced difficult moments for a year now,

perceiving the need for help, a support to be able to “go forward”, to be able to see and

start planning for the future again.

The desire to feel better arises precisely from the need to find a lost balance, with

mechanisms in continuous modulation and difficult to apply, a sort of daily effort

developed through constant self-evaluations, marked however by deep frustration.

But because sometimes it is difficult to contact a professional figure such as that of the Psychologist and

of the Psychologist to be accompanied and supported in these difficult internal mediations?

Because in this new millennium in which physical, terrestrial and spatial limits have been overcome,

the action connected to the will of a psychological support remains stuck inside one

century-old stereotype?

Contacting a psychologist a psychologist is certainly difficult, but only from a point of view

awareness regarding the acceptance of one’s discomfort; ask for help from a

professional is an important opportunity that the person gives himself not only to solve the problem

current problem, but also to learn one’s own adaptive, operational, thinking and

reactive. A real investment in yourself to get rich and get to know yourself in aspects that are sometimes unknown.

Often the mental effort that a person decides to undertake has a very high cost (in terms

of internal energy), as the step of asking for help is experienced as a personal failure e

it is not conceived as the need to need new mental strategies.

At this point, therefore, the motivation linked to the difficulty in asking for help seems to be

upside down, i.e. it no longer seems to be connected to the stereotyped figure of the Psychologist or the

Psychologist, but to a self-restriction that human beings (particularly and mostly males)

she shows for fear of showing his frailties, of losing his role, as explained by Seidman in

2010, and subsequently by Mayer in 2018, studies in which the emphasis is placed on the role

important given to Western education, which initiates children to adopt attitudes

stoic and emotionally closed, thus giving a negative point of view towards

opposite (positive) attitudes, because being empathetic, showing emotions such as sadness, comes

considered as modest and feminine attitudes, and therefore fragile.

In research done by Huang and his research team in 2017, asking for help shows

a responsible openness and with good relationship skills.

It seems clear at this point that giving a strong self-image remains an important point a

social level, without considering the risk of triggering a self-sacrifice mechanism

comparisons, sacrifice that includes body and mind.

Awareness, and acceptance. Keywords at the base of each request for help.

Dr. Letizia De Mori